Joy and Rigor Are Not Opposites

Somewhere in the last generation, a false choice crept into our conversations about teaching. We began to speak as though joy and rigor were opponents, as though a classroom could be one or the other, but not both. The best schools I have known refuse the choice entirely.

Rigor without joy becomes drudgery, and drudgery is a poor teacher. Joy without rigor becomes entertainment, and entertainment rarely produces the deep competence that gives a child real confidence. What children need, what all of us need, is the experience of being asked to do hard, meaningful work in the company of people who are glad to be doing it with them.

This is, of course, an old idea. The progressive tradition understood that the child is not a vessel to be filled but a mind to be engaged, and that engagement is the precondition of real learning. We have, in our rush toward measurable outcomes, sometimes forgotten the wisdom that animated that tradition.

In my own practice, I have learned to look for a particular quality in a classroom: the sound of children leaning in. When children are leaning in, to a text, to a problem, to one another, you are seeing rigor and joy held together. You are seeing learning as it is meant to be.

To build such classrooms is not a matter of personality or charisma. It is a matter of instructional coherence, of careful planning, of a leader who protects the conditions in which teachers can teach this way. It is, in the end, another form of the work of developing people.

Written by

Dr. Rhema Stradford Dai, Ed.D.

Experienced Elementary School Leader · Scholar-Practitioner · Author · Speaker. Her work explores the development of people as the central work of educational leadership.

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