Families as Authentic Partners

We have long spoken of family involvement, and the word has done a great deal of good. But I have come to think it is no longer adequate. Involvement suggests that the school owns the work and the family is invited to help. Partnership is a different word, and it asks for a different practice.

The difference, at its root, is the difference between welcoming families and sharing power with them. A school that merely welcomes keeps the authority; a school that partners distributes it. This is harder, and it is more honest, and it is what families can feel even when we do not say it.

Partnership begins with respect for what families already know. Every family carries a theory of their child, accumulated, tested, often wiser than they are given credit for. A school that treats families as bearers of essential knowledge rather than audiences for school news has already begun the real work.

It continues in the structures we build. Not the structures of involvement, the fundraiser, the conference, the volunteer shift, but the structures of partnership: the shared decision-making, the genuine consultation, the willingness to be changed by what families tell us.

When families become authentic partners, the school becomes more than a school. It becomes a community of adults united around the flourishing of children. That is the work, and it is, like all the work that matters, the work of developing people, this time, the people beyond the schoolhouse door.

Written by

Dr. Rhema Stradford Dai, Ed.D.

Experienced Elementary School Leader · Scholar-Practitioner · Author · Speaker. Her work explores the development of people as the central work of educational leadership.

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